Are you spinning your wheels?  Being productive but feeling that you are just working and working and working??  Is life supposed to be this way?

A really good friend of mine emailed me recently because she was experiencing this very thing:

“I work full time and want to do create my business, as you know, but I need to learn it, practice it, get better at it, and this all has to happen after work and on weekends. My iphone to do list is constant. Delete one thing I’ve done, add 10 more. How do I learn to be satisfied with knowing that everything I’m doing will get me there in the end, I’m on the right track, there are only so many hours in the day, and success will come in time? Or is it that exact go-go gadget nature that won’t let me rest, that will get me there in the end?

Do you know what I mean? I NEVER watch TV, I think it’s a waste of time. I NEVER sit on the couch to read a book, I’ve got other things to do. I come home from work, make dinner and get back on the computer to do business  stuff.”

My friend had a few things going on (just a few!) but don’t we all???

1. Train Yourself To Enjoy Life

If you can train yourself to run a marathon, or train yourself to eat well…why can’t you train yourself to enjoy life?  One of the best hidden secrets about life is that YOU get to decide how you FEEL and how you EXPERIENCE life!  Wow!  So if this is true  (and I say this because I want you to test and prove this theory) then decide today that you are a Person that Enjoys Life!!  Train yourself today to love life and have fun!

2. Passionate Work = Passionate Life

If you are an entrepreneur, you are already in the top 5% of people that are willing to do more, learn more, go the extra mile… and  have amazing goals.  If you’re not (and that’s cool too!) but are you passionate about your work?  Passionate work contributes greatly to a passionate life and enjoyable life.  When you are in flow with your passions, your work seems effortless, and you are less likely to feel burned out and bitter.

3. Recharge Your Mind

Sometimes I have experienced that the MIND needs to be recharged. Much like you take care of your body by eating right and working out, you need to take care of your psychology and have “down time” or relaxation time. The question is:   How much is right for you? That is what you need to answer for yourself.   Is it ONE Down/Relaxation Day per week?  Is it One every-other week?  When you figure it out….then BLOCK that– BLACK IT OUT in your calendar. Stick to it and do it no matter what. Just like you need 8 hours of sleep a night, make sure you take your 4 days a month, or 8 days a month for rest and relaxation.

4. Resting is Necessary Not Indulgent!

It is really simple human psychology, don’t feel guilty, don’t feel shamed in taking your relaxation days. In order to continue to learn, to continue to feel creative, you need away time. It is a necessary part of the process.
When you think of it as necessary instead of “being weak” or “caving into indulgence” then you will be able to more fully relax.

5. The Paradox of Relaxation

Also what happens when you relax is that you SLOW down and become more present. When you are working on your business (or job-or project) you are future oriented, instead of present oriented. Being present allows you to appreciate today, appreciate your loved ones, friends, the day, the food, the fun etc… We get to reconnect and rejuvenate our soul…then allowing life to feel more in FLOW than so rushed or demanding. It is amazing.

DO IT!

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Why do we do this to ourselves?  We end up in jobs, just to hate our lives three years later, but then feel stuck because we now like the life that the money gives to us?

I have absolutely done this to myself…and I am sure that many of you have done the same.  In fact, I often wrestle with this very dilemma.   Shouldn’t I get a job?  Isn’t a job what normal people do?  The neighbors look at me strangely because I am still in my pajamas at 3pm when it is time to pick my son up from school….little do they know that I have been hunkered down in my office pounding on my computer creating genius work.  But sometimes it doesn’t always feel like genius work if it isn’t instantly fruitful.  So how do you balance the creativity of your purpose with the financial ramifications that life delivers?

Faith alone does not pay the bills

The old Zen proverb comes to mind, “Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water…after enlightenment, chop wood and carry water.”  You can almost change it to saying, “Before you find your purpose you must feed your family and pay the bills, after  you find your purpose, you must feed your family and pay the bills!”  While I am a big believer in faith, I know that faith alone does not put food on the table.  But I do not want to lead you astray!  Faith is the first, and most important step in realizing your purpose and your dreams!  It is the glimmer of belief that you can do what is put before you!

Yet, do not rely just on faith, you must put that faith into action and work!  We are not given a sturdy body, smart brains and capable hands just to sit on our tush and be faithful!  We are made to work, create and purposefully manifest.

Who Says you Can’t Have a Job and Create Your Purpose?

So when you know that the job you hold is merely a means for survival, why not transform the thought about having that job is merely just your training wheels to learning how to ride your bike of purpose?  You have your job as your safety net, but you are working diligently on your purposeful business?  Many people start off this way, currently I have several friends who have a day job, and then make their real magic happen in the evenings and weekends.  Think about this, there are 168 hours in a week, and you may only work 40 hours per week.  (Or less if you’re creative or efficient!)  So there are several more hours in the week to create your purpose.

Another person comes to mind, Darren Rowse or “The Launch Coach” just recently quit his “day job” when he was able to successfully create his purposeful empire by helping others launch their products.  Doable?  Absolutely!!

Starbucks is good for more than just coffee

Recently, while having this very discussion with friends, several of my friends mentioned that Starbucks gives full benefits for only 20 hours of work and flexible shifts.  Their response to this question was, “There’s nothing like living off of macaroni and cheese for a few weeks to push you into having to create your business!”  Now, I know that is an extreme example (especially since I’m not a fan of macaroni and cheese), but you can appreciate what they mean.  It’s easy and comfortable to get sucked into a full time corporate job, cushy pay, cushy benefits, but then it’s like a black hole.  Depending upon your personality, you may never come out the other end!  Starbucks on the other hand, lends itself to per diem employment, with promises of good benefits.  Casual.

Couch Surfing?

So if you cannot stand your corporate job anymore, and the voice inside of you is screaming for a way out, maybe it’s time to listen.  Often times, when there is a will, there is a way!  Sometimes, its better if we listen to that little voice earlier than later.  That voice will tend to grow louder, and eventually will get out the “Big Stick” to hit you over the head with it, until you listen.

As ridiculous as this might sound, some people will NEED to quit their jobs in order to find their purpose.  The noise and the distraction from a job is too blinding and deafening to be able to create.   If this is you….there is no shame in designing your life very simply, and perhaps moving back in with Mom and Dad or couch surfing on a friends couch may work for a short while.

Often times, the thought of changing to a simple lifestyle and giving up your luxuries seems worse than it really is.  When I retired, I gave up a lot of luxuries, and I honestly could not be happier or contented.  I thought I would miss a lot of my perks, but the time and the space that I have now to create is far better than the stress I had with all of the other “stuff”.

Being a dreamer doesn’t mean that you have to give up all of your worldly responsibilities.  The biggest minds were dreamers, daVinci, Einstein, Ford, etc…  Using that mind that you use to create all of your ideas, will be well served for you to figure out how to create your purpose in this world and still manage to feed yourself.   You can do it!!  I have faith in you!!

Many adventures!  Makenzie

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